Was it consensual?
Did you agree freely? Consent must be given without pressure, guilt, manipulation, or force.
Were you fully conscious and able to decide? Consent cannot be given if someone is incapacitated by alcohol, drugs, or if they are asleep or unconscious.
Did you feel pressured or coerced? If you felt forced, threatened, or worn down into saying yes because you were afraid of the consequences or awkwardness, that is not true consent.
If you are confused, distressed, or unsure whether what happened to you was consensual or constituted sexual assault, you do not have to figure it out alone. Confidential support and advice are available:
In the UK: You can reach Rape Crisis England & Wales at 0808 500 2222 or visit Rape Crisis England & Wales for free, confidential support.
If you are in immediate danger or need urgent help: Call emergency services (999 in the UK or 112 in Europe).